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I just thought this was pretty cool and had to share it with you!

All my love,

Kimmy

Without A Label

Motive As An Enabler Of Forgiveness #MentalIllness #MoodDisorder #Bipolar | Without A Label.

A wonderful post on bipolar disorder and multiple personalities by Dennis Heil.

Love you all,

Kimmy

Therapist Abuse Awareness: The Cause I Fight For | Mike Ricksecker, Author and Ghostorian.

 

Please read this and sign the petition for Lynette’s Law. This petition was created to help stop therapist abuse. This is a VERY important cause and needs to be dealt with by us. Thank you in advance for signing this. It makes me know that there are good people out there.

Much love, 

Kimmy

http://www.lynetteslaw4maryland.com/what-is-therapist-abuse/

Therapist Abuse

Therapist abuse is using the imbalance of power in the therapeutic relationship to…

Control, manipulate and exploit clients.
Therapist abuse comes in many forms.
Therapists encouraging their clients to do certain things
That are not within the clients best interests
Therapists encouraging the clients dependency.
Therapists using the clients vulnerability to the therapists advantage.
Abandoning clients.
Engaging in an unethical dual relationship with client.

How it happens

People seek therapy for a variety of reasons. Therapy is supposed to provide a healthy relationship where the client feels safe and secure. The building of trust in the therapeutic relationship is essential to providing a healthy, stable environment where the client can express their emotions and feelings that are troublesome for them.

In the therapeutic relationship there is an imbalance of power. The therapist has a significant amount of power and influence over the client.

As a client we grow to respect their opinions and appreciate their guidance.

For clients who experienced childhood abuse and neglect, the therapist may take on the role of a parent.

In this case we seek validation, approval and acceptance from the therapist to replace what we didn’t receive as a child.

Adults who experienced childhood abuse are at a higher risk of being abused in the therapeutic relationship.

If clients were abused as children or abandoned, they most likely never developed self-esteem, self-worth and appropriate boundaries. Never developing these things can make clients a target for abuse as adults.

Clients who have suffered abuse in the past may not be able to distinguish between what is a violation and what is theraputetic .

The power and influence the therapist has, has a lot of potential to do a lot of good and by the same token it also has the power to cause severe damage that could have long lasting effects on the client.

How often does it happen?

Statistics about therapy patient abuse only tell part of the story.

  • Approximately 4.4% of therapists report having engaged in sex with at least one client,
  • The offenders are about four times more likely to be male than female,
  • The vast majority of sexually exploited clients are women (88-92%), and
  • One out of 20 victims is a minor.
  • The aftermath is incalculable. 11% of victims of therapist patient abuse end up in the hospital, 14% attempt suicide, and 1% actually commit suicide

Check list for therapy abuse

    1. Go with your gut feelings, if something seems off, trust your instinct and seek another therapist.

    2. Does your therapist seem unprofessional? ( Do they talk about other clients, their personal life or things that make you feel uncomfortable?)

    3. If you can’t tell if therapy is helping or hurting.

    4. If the therapist is degrading, humiliating, intimidating, shaming you or you feel manipulated.

    5. Making suggestive comments, sexual comments erotic comments.

    6. Pressuring you to make decisions or engage in activities that you feel uncomfortable with.

    7. Calling you on the phone, email, text messages, meeting with you outside the office.

    8. Giving constant attention to your looks or complimenting your physical appearance ( you are beautiful, sexy) rather than personality or things you’ve accomplished.

    9. Pay close attention to their compliments about your achievements. Does it seem like over kill?

    10. Does the therapist make you feel like you “need” them? Do you feel anxious if you miss a session? Has your therapist made you feel like they are the only one who can “fix” you?

    11. Have they made promises to never abandon you and always be there for you? Have they made you feel like they will never let you down?

    12. Have they engaged in touching, kissing, hugging, winks, sexually suggestive body language and or sexual activity?

Where to get help??

  1. Talk to a friend, spouse or parent.
  2. Seek out information. There are many websites on the internet with a vast amount of information and people who can help. I recommend TELL ( therapy exploitation link line. The website iswww.therapyabuse.org I also recommend www.survivingtherapistabuse.com. The information on these websites can help you through the process of getting help and making the decisions that are best for you.
  3. Seek another therapist.
  4. Contact legal counsel, file a board complaint and talk with police.

 

ABC News’ Jennifer Pereira and Sharde Miller report:

The woman who dressed her young daughter as Dolly Parton – complete with a padded bra and sculpting underwear – for a child beauty pageant that aired on TLC’s “Toddlers & Tiaras” could lose custody of the girl after her estranged husband claimed she sexually exploited their daughter by allowing her to dress so provocatively.

(Image Credit: TLC)Little Maddy Verst‘s appearance in thecostume on an episode of the controversial TLC program sparked a firestorm of criticism against her mother, Lindsay.

Her father, Bill Verst, has asked a Kentucky court to grant him sole custody of his daughter, who is now 6.

During a court proceeding Saturday, a judge threw reporters out of the courtroom, closed the hearing and placed a gag order on mother Lindsay Jackson. The judge also imposed a ban on any pageant activity for Maddy or her mother for the duration of the trial.

A court-appointed psychologist has sided with Maddy’s father, condemning the Parton costume and recommending that a judge make Verst the girl’s sole custodial parent.

Jackson said the costume was never meant to be sexual and that she shouldn’t be at risk of losing her daughter.

If the judge grants Verst’s petition because Maddy did pageants with her mother, “then that opens the door for any parent to challenge anybody on any activity that a kid does, period,” Jackson told FOXNews.com.

Jackson dressed her daughter herself in the Dolly Parton costume, telling the TLC show’s cameras, “When she wears the fake boobs and the fake butt, it’s just like an added extra bonus and it’s really funny when she comes out on stage and everybody thinks it’s hysterical.”

Not everybody thought it was hysterical, however. Some online commenters were quick to express their disgust for the costume and for the perceived sexualization of little girls on the show.

READ MORE: Outrage when Maddy wears catsuit, padded buttocks on show

It’s not the first time a pageant mother has come under fire on the show.

Wendy Dickey was condemned for dressing her 3-year-old daughter, Paisley, in a racy costume that mimicked the outfit worn by Julia Roberts’ prostitute character from the movie “Pretty Woman.”

The costume consisted of a fitted, skin-baring white blouse, tight blue mini-skirt and thigh-high, shiny black boots. Paisley wore it all – complete with a blond wig, which Roberts’ prostitute character also wore – and critics and children’s advocates erupted in outrage.

The court proceedings in Maddy’s custody case resume Aug. 31.

WATCH: ‘Toddlers and Tiaras’ Feud Comes to an End?

 

No way! When I first saw this episode (yes I realize I have a problem, the first step is admitting it) my mouth was left hanging open and my head was spinning. It is like watching a train wreck that you can’t turn away from. I honestly think the rules of this pageant stuff needs to be re-evaluated. We are teaching our little girls that it is okay to dress provocatively and try to win the love of others by our looks. This has got to stop and the only way I know how to help is to not watch this show anymore. I admit it is addicting yet I must do my part to stop the nonsense. If I had a little girl she would go nowhere near a stage, at least that is what I think. If she asked and truly wanted to do something in the arts I might consider it when she became old enough to request it but until then, no way hose. I would love to hear what your thoughts are on this because my eyes are wide open, so is my mouth and my head is still spinning!

Mwah,

Kimmy

 

Reality ~ Fall and Rise ~ art and verse.

via Reality ~ Fall and Rise ~ art and verse.

Such an honor to be mentioned in this woman’s blog. I can’t believe she thinks enough of me to post about it. I love this Canadian! What a wonderful poem. A definite must read! Thank you Lesley, thank you! You have made my day!

Hugs and sloppy Kisses from Harley and me! (the sloppy kisses are from Harley, I am a clean kisser. LOL!)

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Rethink Mental Illness

I have a WordPress.org blog called Without A Label that I have worked very hard at getting all set up and I would love for you to check it out. One of these days I will have this blog all set up properly but for now you can find me at Without A Label. I love you all dearly and yes, I know I don’t know you all yet. To me, that doesn’t matter I still love you as the brother’s and sister’s in Christ that you are.

Much love and abundant blessings,

Kimmy

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I am in the process if moving my blog from WordPress.org to WordPress.com. Until that happens you can find me at http://www.withoutalabel.me. Much love to all of you!

God Bless,

Kimmy

Without A Label