Archive for August, 2012

Motive As An Enabler Of Forgiveness #MentalIllness #MoodDisorder #Bipolar | Without A Label.

A wonderful post on bipolar disorder and multiple personalities by Dennis Heil.

Love you all,

Kimmy

Therapist Abuse Awareness: The Cause I Fight For | Mike Ricksecker, Author and Ghostorian.

 

Please read this and sign the petition for Lynette’s Law. This petition was created to help stop therapist abuse. This is a VERY important cause and needs to be dealt with by us. Thank you in advance for signing this. It makes me know that there are good people out there.

Much love, 

Kimmy

http://www.lynetteslaw4maryland.com/what-is-therapist-abuse/

Therapist Abuse

Therapist abuse is using the imbalance of power in the therapeutic relationship to…

Control, manipulate and exploit clients.
Therapist abuse comes in many forms.
Therapists encouraging their clients to do certain things
That are not within the clients best interests
Therapists encouraging the clients dependency.
Therapists using the clients vulnerability to the therapists advantage.
Abandoning clients.
Engaging in an unethical dual relationship with client.

How it happens

People seek therapy for a variety of reasons. Therapy is supposed to provide a healthy relationship where the client feels safe and secure. The building of trust in the therapeutic relationship is essential to providing a healthy, stable environment where the client can express their emotions and feelings that are troublesome for them.

In the therapeutic relationship there is an imbalance of power. The therapist has a significant amount of power and influence over the client.

As a client we grow to respect their opinions and appreciate their guidance.

For clients who experienced childhood abuse and neglect, the therapist may take on the role of a parent.

In this case we seek validation, approval and acceptance from the therapist to replace what we didn’t receive as a child.

Adults who experienced childhood abuse are at a higher risk of being abused in the therapeutic relationship.

If clients were abused as children or abandoned, they most likely never developed self-esteem, self-worth and appropriate boundaries. Never developing these things can make clients a target for abuse as adults.

Clients who have suffered abuse in the past may not be able to distinguish between what is a violation and what is theraputetic .

The power and influence the therapist has, has a lot of potential to do a lot of good and by the same token it also has the power to cause severe damage that could have long lasting effects on the client.

How often does it happen?

Statistics about therapy patient abuse only tell part of the story.

  • Approximately 4.4% of therapists report having engaged in sex with at least one client,
  • The offenders are about four times more likely to be male than female,
  • The vast majority of sexually exploited clients are women (88-92%), and
  • One out of 20 victims is a minor.
  • The aftermath is incalculable. 11% of victims of therapist patient abuse end up in the hospital, 14% attempt suicide, and 1% actually commit suicide

Check list for therapy abuse

    1. Go with your gut feelings, if something seems off, trust your instinct and seek another therapist.

    2. Does your therapist seem unprofessional? ( Do they talk about other clients, their personal life or things that make you feel uncomfortable?)

    3. If you can’t tell if therapy is helping or hurting.

    4. If the therapist is degrading, humiliating, intimidating, shaming you or you feel manipulated.

    5. Making suggestive comments, sexual comments erotic comments.

    6. Pressuring you to make decisions or engage in activities that you feel uncomfortable with.

    7. Calling you on the phone, email, text messages, meeting with you outside the office.

    8. Giving constant attention to your looks or complimenting your physical appearance ( you are beautiful, sexy) rather than personality or things you’ve accomplished.

    9. Pay close attention to their compliments about your achievements. Does it seem like over kill?

    10. Does the therapist make you feel like you “need” them? Do you feel anxious if you miss a session? Has your therapist made you feel like they are the only one who can “fix” you?

    11. Have they made promises to never abandon you and always be there for you? Have they made you feel like they will never let you down?

    12. Have they engaged in touching, kissing, hugging, winks, sexually suggestive body language and or sexual activity?

Where to get help??

  1. Talk to a friend, spouse or parent.
  2. Seek out information. There are many websites on the internet with a vast amount of information and people who can help. I recommend TELL ( therapy exploitation link line. The website iswww.therapyabuse.org I also recommend www.survivingtherapistabuse.com. The information on these websites can help you through the process of getting help and making the decisions that are best for you.
  3. Seek another therapist.
  4. Contact legal counsel, file a board complaint and talk with police.

 

ABC News’ Jennifer Pereira and Sharde Miller report:

The woman who dressed her young daughter as Dolly Parton – complete with a padded bra and sculpting underwear – for a child beauty pageant that aired on TLC’s “Toddlers & Tiaras” could lose custody of the girl after her estranged husband claimed she sexually exploited their daughter by allowing her to dress so provocatively.

(Image Credit: TLC)Little Maddy Verst‘s appearance in thecostume on an episode of the controversial TLC program sparked a firestorm of criticism against her mother, Lindsay.

Her father, Bill Verst, has asked a Kentucky court to grant him sole custody of his daughter, who is now 6.

During a court proceeding Saturday, a judge threw reporters out of the courtroom, closed the hearing and placed a gag order on mother Lindsay Jackson. The judge also imposed a ban on any pageant activity for Maddy or her mother for the duration of the trial.

A court-appointed psychologist has sided with Maddy’s father, condemning the Parton costume and recommending that a judge make Verst the girl’s sole custodial parent.

Jackson said the costume was never meant to be sexual and that she shouldn’t be at risk of losing her daughter.

If the judge grants Verst’s petition because Maddy did pageants with her mother, “then that opens the door for any parent to challenge anybody on any activity that a kid does, period,” Jackson told FOXNews.com.

Jackson dressed her daughter herself in the Dolly Parton costume, telling the TLC show’s cameras, “When she wears the fake boobs and the fake butt, it’s just like an added extra bonus and it’s really funny when she comes out on stage and everybody thinks it’s hysterical.”

Not everybody thought it was hysterical, however. Some online commenters were quick to express their disgust for the costume and for the perceived sexualization of little girls on the show.

READ MORE: Outrage when Maddy wears catsuit, padded buttocks on show

It’s not the first time a pageant mother has come under fire on the show.

Wendy Dickey was condemned for dressing her 3-year-old daughter, Paisley, in a racy costume that mimicked the outfit worn by Julia Roberts’ prostitute character from the movie “Pretty Woman.”

The costume consisted of a fitted, skin-baring white blouse, tight blue mini-skirt and thigh-high, shiny black boots. Paisley wore it all – complete with a blond wig, which Roberts’ prostitute character also wore – and critics and children’s advocates erupted in outrage.

The court proceedings in Maddy’s custody case resume Aug. 31.

WATCH: ‘Toddlers and Tiaras’ Feud Comes to an End?

 

No way! When I first saw this episode (yes I realize I have a problem, the first step is admitting it) my mouth was left hanging open and my head was spinning. It is like watching a train wreck that you can’t turn away from. I honestly think the rules of this pageant stuff needs to be re-evaluated. We are teaching our little girls that it is okay to dress provocatively and try to win the love of others by our looks. This has got to stop and the only way I know how to help is to not watch this show anymore. I admit it is addicting yet I must do my part to stop the nonsense. If I had a little girl she would go nowhere near a stage, at least that is what I think. If she asked and truly wanted to do something in the arts I might consider it when she became old enough to request it but until then, no way hose. I would love to hear what your thoughts are on this because my eyes are wide open, so is my mouth and my head is still spinning!

Mwah,

Kimmy

 

Posted: 08/18/2012 in Uncategorized

I love this girl! I am so blessed to have such a great friend and sister in Christ named Nizy! She has brought such joy into my life! I thank God for her!
Mwah,
Kimmy

Nizy's Life Compendium

Thank you for our friendship
For it means so much to me,
Your compassion and understanding
And loving ways you share so free.

Thank you for being there for me
When I needed someone that cared,
And thank you for your prayers
For the times together we shared.

Thank you for our friendship
For it’s something even money can’t buy,
Thank you for holding me tightly
When there was a need I had to cry.

Thank you for always smiling
When I couldn’t smile at all,
And thank you for boosting my ego
For the times I felt so small.

I thank God for our friendship
So this message to you I send,
May God bless and always watch over you
And may you always remain my friend.

FRIENDSHIP, whether it is between people, lovers, former lovers, siblings, people and animals or other, is the most outstandingly valuable relationship we possess. To…

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I will be there just like you were there for me! Thank you Nizy from the bottom of my heart for calling and checking in on me, praying for me, texting me, thinking of me, and going above and beyond the call of duty of a friend. I LOVE you girl! Thank you so so much for allowing me to reblog this! You inspire me so much and are able to express things far better than I on so many topics. Thank you for letting me use your words to describe how I feel at times.
I KNOW my heavenly Father is ALWAYS there for me. Thank you for believing that too! It means so much to know that one day we will share heaven together and that eases my heart.
Thank you again for being there for me through this rough time.
Love,
Kimmy

Nizy's Life Compendium

When she’s crying and you see tears running down her face,

Will you be there?

When she’s in her deepest fear,

Will you be there?

When she face her darkest hour,

Will you be there?

Will you help when she’s in trouble?

Will you watch as she weeps?

I have one other question…

When you have your head hanging down,

Will it be her that you seek?

When she’s down and nowhere to run,

Will you be there with open arms?

So please, try not to judge, you have no right to judge!

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Posted: 08/13/2012 in Uncategorized

Thank you so much Nizy! I need this right now. Staying in prayer and hugging Harley as much as possible. I know the time is near. I don’t want to do this but I just may have to. I think she is suffering. I can’t let her suffer. I owe it to her to let her go in peace. I am praying that God allows dogs into His kingdom. I just know He will. She deserves it. She deserves happiness and peace from all of this suffering. I feel like I’m losing a piece of me. I know I will see her again one day in Heaven if it is His will. I just pray that it is. I love you Nizy. I need a hug.
Kimmy
http://www.withoutalabel.me

Nizy's Life Compendium

Eternal God, whose mercy is endless and the treasury of compassion inexhaustible, look kindly upon us, and increase your mercy in us that in difficult moments we might not despair nor become despondent, but with great confidence, submit ourselves to your Holy Will, which is love and mercy itself.Father God, Help my dear friend Kimmy. Help her dog Harley to fight and win her battle against her illness. Give her the strength she needs to gain back her life and joy. She has such a nice joy for Kimmy. Please take away her sickness and pain. Give her strength and health Lord. She needs it, She deserves her peace and to be without pain. Help her to get better or make it painless for her… and Kimmy. May everything we do, begin with your inspiration, continue with your help, and reach perfection under your…

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Reality ~ Fall and Rise ~ art and verse.

via Reality ~ Fall and Rise ~ art and verse.

Such an honor to be mentioned in this woman’s blog. I can’t believe she thinks enough of me to post about it. I love this Canadian! What a wonderful poem. A definite must read! Thank you Lesley, thank you! You have made my day!

Hugs and sloppy Kisses from Harley and me! (the sloppy kisses are from Harley, I am a clean kisser. LOL!)

http://www.withoutalabel.me

Rethink Mental Illness

Posted: 08/09/2012 in Uncategorized

I thought this needed to be shared. Love this lady’s way of putting things into perspective. So wonderful!
All my love,
Kimmy
http://www.withoutalabel.me

The Journey begins Here

The Gypsy had come a long way by now. Starting with a new Beginning (Pillar I), an offer and a promise served to enlighten and envelop her. Turning to a broader scope of the world and Discovering (Pillar II) that her own small world was but a fraction of what was necessary to understand her purpose served to push her further. Now, casting off her selfish quest in order to understand and read others was her sole focus for the time being. She smiled with contentment at her self-discovery, delighted that she grasped the Realities of Life (Pillar III), knowing those realities would help mold her own sensibilities – help her centre her own spirituality and place in the Universe and in doing so perhaps re-create a better person. 

Saving Grace

The haggard face looks weary.
Life took its toll too early.
The eyes that once were sparkling

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Posted: 08/09/2012 in Uncategorized

I could not pass this one up! It made me chuckle and I hope it does you too!
Smile,
Kimmy
http://www.withoutalabel.me

Posted: 08/09/2012 in Uncategorized

This was too good to not reblog. I just had to! Thank you http://www.revelationsinwriting.wordpress.com for letting me do this!
Much love to you!
Kimmy
http://www.withoutalabel.me

Revelations In Writing

“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” – John 10:10

All that is here that attempts to harm, is from the pit of hell.  Jesus came so that we might overcome all that comes against us.  In Him, we have the power and authority to press on toward our permanent prize of eternal life with Him.

Our hope is in Him alone.  Though we have struggles and suffering in this space, we also have our Savior; the solid Rock to whom we can continually cling.  The thief, the devil, the deceiver – the one who opposes God and attempts to steal the souls of men, is a liar who is trying to tear us down.  However, once we have invited Christ to be in command, we have His covering that conquers all that…

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Posted: 08/08/2012 in Uncategorized

Yep, this one too!
Hugs,
Kimmy
http://www.withoutalabel.me

Confessions of a Novice Writer

Another awesome guest post by Kimmy. Thanks so much to contributing! 🙂

Hello readers! My name is Kimberly McPherson and my blog is http://www.withoutalabel.me. I recently started blogging as a way express the things that make up me and to write about things that I consider to be helpful to others. I am super excited to be a part of Confessions Of a Novice Writer and I hope you enjoy my posts. You can read more about me at https://www.facebook.com/www.withoutalabel.me.

Blessings,

Kimmy

How to Increase Your Blogging Traffic and General Blogging Tips

 I have been blogging since January of this year and I have learned some savvy blogging tips that I would like to share with you. The following are ways to increase your traffic and general blogging tips that every blogger should know. It took me a while to figure things out, but once I got started…

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Posted: 08/08/2012 in Uncategorized

And another one!
Mwah,
Kimmy
http://www.withoutalabel.me

Confessions of a Novice Writer

Hello readers! My name is Kimberly McPherson and my blog is http://www.withoutalabel.me. I recently started blogging as a way express the things that make up me and to write about things that I consider to be helpful to others. I am super excited to be a part of Confessions Of a Novice Writer and I hope you enjoy my posts. You can read more about me at https://www.facebook.com/www.withoutalabel.me.

Blessings,

Kimmy

Best WordPress Plugins to Protect Against Hackers

Hackers are brutal and they can take away all that you worked for in a stroke of a key. To best equip your WordPress site you will need three essential plugins. The three plugins are Simple Login LockdownWordPress HTTPS (SSL), and Better WP Security. I cannot promise this will protect you from all hackers, nevertheless these will assure that your site remains safe.

The  Simple Login Lockdown

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Posted: 08/08/2012 in Uncategorized

Another guest post I did for Confessions of a Novice Writer.
Love ya,
Kimmy
http://www.withoutalabel.me

Confessions of a Novice Writer

Hello readers! My name is Kimberly McPherson and my blog is http://www.withoutalabel.me. I recently started blogging as a way express the things that make up me and to write about things that I consider to be helpful to others. I am super excited to be a part of Confessions Of a Novice Writer and I hope you enjoy my posts. You can read more about me at https://www.facebook.com/www.withoutalabel.me.

Blessings,

Kimmy

My Tips for Running a Successful Blog and Generating Website Traffic

I have been asked by many of my readers to share my tips on running a successful blog and how to generate website traffic (bring in more readers). I must stress to you that I am a new blogger. I have been researching blogging only since January of this year. I started reading books on blogging and have found three great ones that I constantly refer to…

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Posted: 08/08/2012 in Uncategorized

A guest post I did for Confessions of a Novice Writer.
Much Love,
Kimmy
http://www.withoutalabel.me

Confessions of a Novice Writer

Hello readers! My name is Kimberly McPherson and my blog is http://www.withoutalabel.me. I recently started blogging as a way express the things that make up me and to write about things that I consider to be helpful to others. I am super excited to be a part of Confessions Of a Novice Writer and I hope you enjoy my posts. You can read more about me at https://www.facebook.com/www.withoutalabel.me.

Blessings,

Kimmy

26 WordPress Facebook Plugins You Shouldn’t Miss Out On

After searching for a good few days on how to speed up my site and still incorporate Facebook into my blog I wanted to make sure that all of my readers had the same advice that I have so I compiled 26 WordPress Plugins that you do not want to miss out on.  My advice still holds true as to not overrun your site with plugins or it will make…

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Posted: 08/06/2012 in Uncategorized

I needed to read this today and I thought you might too! I just love Nizy and all of her wonderful posts. I hope you like it as much as I do.
God bless,
Kimmy
http://www.withoutalabel.me

Nizy's Life Compendium

You Quit, You Fail!.

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,

When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,

When the funds are low and the debts are high,

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,

When care is pressing you down a bit,

Just rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,

As every one of us sometimes learns,

And many a failure turns about,

When he might have won had he stuck it out;

Don’t give up though the pace seems slow,

You may succeed with another blow.

Success is failure turned inside out

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,

And you never can tell how close you are,

It may be near when it seems so far,

So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit.

It’s when things seem worst that…

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My Dog- Prayers Really Do Work! | Without A Label.

An update on my dog, Harley. All of the prayers really are working! Thank you all so very much, I cannot express my appreciation enough. I love you all!

Kimmy

http://www.withoutalabel.me

Posted: 08/05/2012 in Uncategorized

God is faithful to keep His promises!
Kimmy
http://www.withoutalabel.me

Nizy's Life Compendium

Video:credit to the owner

Are you tired of waiting for God to do something for you?  I too struggle with waiting on God’s timing in different areas of  my life. Some days, it is a lot harder to be patient. When we’re bringing our concerns to the Lord again and again, we grow tired of waiting. It soon begins to feel like our prayers are falling on deaf ears. Often our desire is to take control and just “do the best we can”; it is our fleshly reaction to the silence. We know Galatians 5 lists patience as a fruit of the Holy Spirit so we confess our desire to rule our own lives. We ask the Spirit to fill us, empowering and directing us even as we continue to wait on the Lord.

When you begin to feel the pressure to quit, your attitude must be as the Psalmist…

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Posted: 08/05/2012 in Uncategorized

A must reblog!
God bless,
Kimmy
http://www.withoutalabel.me

Posted: 08/05/2012 in Uncategorized

Another great work of art by my favorite blogger, Nizy. A piece on guidance… Emphasis on dance!
All my love,
Kimmy
http://www.withoutalabel.me

Nizy's Life Compendium

Guidance.

When I meditated on the word

GUIDANCE, I kept seeing “dance” at the

end of the word. I remember

reading that doing God’s will is a lot

like dancing. When two people

try to lead, nothing feels right. The

movement doesn’t flow with

the music, and everything is quite

uncomfortable and jerky.

When one person realizes and

lets the other lead, both bodies begin

to flow with the music.

One gives gentle cues, perhaps with a nudge

to the back or by pressing

lightly in one direction or another. It’s

as if two become one body,

moving beautifully. The dance takes

surrender, willingness, and

attentiveness from one person and gentle

guidance and skill from the other.

My eyes drew back to the word

GUIDANCE. When I saw “G,” I thought of

God, followed by “u” and “i.”

“God, “u” and “i” “dance.” God, you,

and I dance! This

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Posted: 08/02/2012 in Uncategorized

Such words of truth and inspiration. I just had to reblog this one as well.
All my love,
Kimmy
http://www.withoutalabel.me

Posted: 08/02/2012 in Uncategorized

Yet another wonderful post by Nizy! She is such an inspiration to me. I love that chick!
God bless you all,
Kimmy
http://www.withoutalabel.me

Nizy's Life Compendium

My soul finds rest in God

When I am weary He picks me up

He comforts my soul and fills my heart

The Lord is my rock, my ever guiding light

The reason that I live and the reason that I fight

The Lord is my fortress, I will not be shaken

Under His mighty wings I will be hidden

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Posted: 08/02/2012 in Uncategorized

Love this so much! It calms my soul. I just had to reblog this. I love Nizy’s stuff, ALL of it!
Much love and God bless,
Kimmy
http://www.withoutalabel.me

Nizy's Life Compendium

Psalm 23

The Lord is my Shepherd; I shall not want.

He maketh me to lie down in green pastures:

He leadeth me beside the still waters.

He restoreth my soul:

He leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for His name’ sake.

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,

I will fear no evil: For thou art with me;

Thy rod and thy staff, they comfort me.

Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies;

Thou annointest my head with oil; My cup runneth over.

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life,

and I will dwell in the House of the Lord forever. Amen!

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